Guest Contributor Caterina Clarke
The end of the holidays sometimes seems anticlimactic. We build up three wonderful holidays filled with gratitude, hope, and new beginnings. Then the children go back to school and we, at times, continue to work through the holidays with a few days off. New Year’s Eve, however, sets a tone for greater promise—the inevitable list of New Year’s resolutions.
I thought it would be good to get grounded before thinking of any resolutions or goals for the New Year. Sit with these questions:
- What did you accomplish in the past year?
- What brought joy, passion, and hope?
- How can you let your internal desire come alive in your life this year?
- Does it make you think how much more is in store for you?
- What can you do to receive the abundance waiting for you?
These questions expand your view and increase your depth of “why” you decide to go down a path. Generally, of all the people who make resolutions 8% are successful in achieving their results (based on research conducted by Statics Brain – see chart below). However, keep in mind that you are 10 times more likely to achieve your goals if you set one.
|News Year’s Resolution Statistics||Data|
|Percent of Americans who usually make New Year’s Resolutions||45%|
|Percent of Americans who infrequently make New Year’s Resolutions||17%|
|Percent of Americans who absolutely never make New Year’s Resolutions||38%|
|Percent of people who are successful in achieving their resolution||8%|
|Percent who have infrequent success||49%|
|Percent who never succeed and fail on their resolution each year||24%|
|People who explicitly make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions|
You can increase your success rate by being faithful to yourself. Here are five tips to keep your New Year’s Resolutions:
- Position: Get rooted and grounded in your internal desire for you and read a motivational quote or spiritual passage each morning that will spark your focus. This can serve as an anchor for you when you are struggling. Just thinking of the love and gifts that surround you, may cause you to think about how you can continue to be open to receive and participate in life’s plan. From this place where you feel your value and self-worth, I also recommend these other tips.
- Precise: Be clear and keep it simple. Little mantras like “Move – Consume – Express” are similar to advertising jingles that stick in our brains. You may find yourself becoming more creative and finding opportunities to incorporate more of this in your daily life.
- Partner: Choose accountability friend. This is a sure way of increasing your ability to achieve your goal. Weekly communication with your accountability partner will help you stay on track to meet your daily goals.
- Place: Change your space and surroundings to help support your actions. For example, creating a sacred space for those who want to meditate or write daily will help channel energy to the activity.
- Plan & Play: Schedule activities to help you establish routines and good habits to move you closer to where you want to be. Daily activities planned to reach your goals is just as important as scheduling the time to work on them.
Be gentle with yourself for being human when you have made choices that are not aligned to your original goals. There is no need to beat yourself up. During this setback learn more about yourself. I always say it’s okay if you make a poor choice as long as you learn from it.
Remember you can always begin again, again and again. It’s not about arriving because if you arrive and have caused others misery, you have not been successful in living life as is genuinely meant. Your attitude will be key to achieving and living life while teaching others close to you how to make changes. Your increased happiness should extend to those around you if you do this right.
Caterina Clarke is a Leadership Development Manager for the automotive industry. She is also co-author of MissGuidedMom, offering spiritual direction and insight through Pearls of Grace. She enjoys sipping cups of tea and spending time with her son.