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What Are We Grateful For? Let Us Count the Ways

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Joshua Mathieu, workforce development specialist at our Youth Moving On program, is pictured here fourth from right, with colleagues at the early Thanksgiving dinner they held for youth at our Peer Resource Center.  Joshua says he is grateful for the supportive staff he works with.

At Hillsides, we have much to be thankful for as Thanksgiving approaches.  We asked staff across the agency  what they are thankful for, and here are some of their responses.  Perhaps the best part about learning what people are grateful for is seeing the smiles on their faces as they ponder the question.  Taking a moment to reflect on life’s blessings is an instant happiness booster. As you read these, you may want to stop and ask yourself, what you are thankful for?

“I am thankful for ….” 

“My accomplishments of this year, from getting a promotion to finally graduating from college.  I’m also grateful for the opportunities to travel and for being close to my family.”  — Giann Arroyo, Systems Administrator I, IT team

“To be alive and healthy.” — Lisa Gavitt, advancement coordinator

“In light of recent events, a home and a family.”  — Samira Vishria, director of professional development

“Having a place to go every morning where I feel comfortable, productive and challenged, not stressed.” — Elvira Contreras, Graphic Designer

“The calling to be a nurse and to help others. I am so grateful to work with a team of nurses who give the best of themselves each day to our clients. Working with friends and amazing hard- working professionals is a great blessing in my life. I am so very grateful for my husband Jack, my sons Jeff and Adam and their families.”  – Kim Weleba, Hillsides nursing office supervisor

“A team who is passionate about working with children in foster care and getting them resources and finding them resource homes.” – Cindy Macias, senior director of Bienvenidos Foster Care and Adoption program

“Bottom line, I am grateful for the Hillsides staff.” – Stacey Roth, Hillsides executive vice president and chief operating officer

“All of the amazing volunteers who every day astound me with their capacity to give back, to care, and to improve the lives of the children of Hillsides.” – Laura Kelso, director of community resources

“Forty years of having been able to achieve the ‘American Dream’ after emigrating from Mexico.” — Linda Gutierrez, foster care social worker

“My family, my health, and my family’s health and happiness.”  — Ashley Mendoza, intake coordinator

“My friends and family and the opportunities I have been given in the industry I work in.”  — Grayson Kelso, director of data services

“My health insurance, specifically Medicare, and today’s technology that can bring cost-free medical solutions around the world for suffering people.  I am also grateful for organizations such as  Smile Train,  a nonprofit  providing corrective surgery for children with cleft lips and palates, Doctors Without Borders, and Seva, which helps preserve and restore peoples’ sight  around the world.” — Robin Rhodes, chaplain

“The supportive staff I work with, and an environment that promotes wellness and self-care.” — Joshua Mathieu, workforce development specialist

“All of our donors, who have been so instrumental in helping us to complete this big capital project? And the fact that we have benefited from a very generous community here in Pasadena. I am also grateful for the incredible Hillsides staff. ” – Joseph M. Costa, Hillsides president and CEO

Happy Thanksgiving from f Hillsides!

A Time to Give Back and a Time to be Thankful

Family around table for Thanksgiving dinner

By Joseph M. Costa, Hillsides President and CEO

Recently I met with a group of staff who provide crisis services to children and families who are at risk of being separated. They described a household of three generations that was dependent upon the oldest female, who suffers from chronic mental illness. Their saga is one of dependence on public funds to maintain lodging and basic services. The staff shared with me that the funding for the family’s lodging was in jeopardy. The loss of their current temporary lodging would threaten the permanent affordable housing that the family has been awaiting.

The situation was urgent; the possibility of this family returning to the street and making due in their broken-down car was hard to contemplate. After a number of phone calls and identification of some emergency funds, the crisis was temporarily averted.  However, as Thanksgiving approaches, there continues to be some uncertainty as to the long-term prospects of affordable lodging for the family.

In reviewing the case, it was abundantly clear that the family’s situation was precarious, and that the slightest misstep could result in catastrophe. Situations like these are heartbreaking and stressful for clients and staff alike as we race against deadlines and what seems like arbitrary protocols to assure this family secure housing and appropriate care.

The family’s needs and challenges, especially at this time of year, is a reminder of how dependent we are on one another. Things we may take for granted seem like impossible luxuries for others.  The availability of funds to address a housing emergency, vouchers for food and other necessities, and the attention of caring individuals is what will make this Thanksgiving special for this family. For those of us who support this family during the holiday, our ability to assist them will also affect our family gatherings this Thursday, reminding us of what Thanksgiving is all about.

This is the story of just one family we serve but there are many more families like this one, living on a precipice, challenged by poverty, chronic illness, and little opportunity. Although the situation of these families is more poignant during the holidays, the struggles they experience know no calendar; they are constant until something breaks in their favor. Until affordable housing is secured, illness is treated, employment attained, and the next generation educated, the cycle of challenges maintains a powerful hold.

Each year at this time, we gather together with our own families, grateful for the abundance we have.  Yet, the needs of the children, youth and families we serve reminds us of the opportunity we have to make a difference and help families who are vulnerable. Please consider what you might be able to do to help those we serve.  You can help fulfill holiday wishes of children and provide families with holiday meals by making a gift to our holiday drive. To contribute, please visit https://hillsides.wedid.it/campaigns/5780.

Thank you for all you do for those we serve.  Without your generous support, it would not be possible to respond to their needs. With your help, this holiday season will be memorable and restore a sense of hope for the new year.

Know that on this Thanksgiving, as we gather and give thanks, that we are most thankful for the faithful support we receive from our community of benefactors. Happy Thanksgiving!

The Hidden Meaning and Value of Your Child’s Halloween Costume

By Desiree Rodrigues

It is that time of year again when we see fall leaves and pumpkin patches in every available lot, and stores are loaded with Halloween items.  When you strip away the cultural meaning of Halloween, you are left with costumes and candy. For adults, Halloween has become a night where one can forget about their adult responsibilities and become a kid at heart again, but what significance does the holiday have on a child?

In an article written for the parenting website Red Tricycle, “The Fascinating Things Kids Who Like to Play Dress-Up Have in Common,” the story discussed a study that involved a group of 180 children. The children were separated into three groups, and each group was asked to work on a 10-minute task.  If they got bored, however, they could play with an IPad. One out of the three groups was allowed to dress up as princesses or their favorite superheroes. It turned out that while overall, 63 percent of those ten minutes were spent on the IPad, the children in costumes worked on the task longer than the other two groups. The researchers concluded that the children in costume identified with their characters’ superhero traits, which motivated them to stay on task. DSC_2403

What can we learn from that study when it comes to preparing for Halloween? Costumes for a child are empowering. They can help a child recognize a superpower, otherwise known as a skill. Costumes can also give a child an opportunity to explore who they are or what they want to become when they become older. Trying on an outfit brings about a change in one’s attitude, so why wouldn’t a costume have the same effect? While I was researching this article, I searched the Internet for pictures of popular costumes for children. Among the Wonder Women and Captain America’s, I was pleased to see real-life icons that have influenced society, such as Amelia Earhart, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, and Neal Armstrong.

I believe that as parents or those who are influential in a child’s life, we need to have a conversation with our young ones and find out what is important to them. If a child picks a fun and whimsy costume, run with that idea. If they choose a superhero, make sure to ask them, why they relate to the character or what do they feel makes them super?

If your child doesn’t have an idea of who 1they want to dress up as, this is your chance to find out who they want to be when they grow up or who they feel like they can relate to right now.  The possibilities are endless, and this will allow their imagination to soar. This may be the only time that most children have the chance to dress up as someone different from them, so make the most of the opportunity and do not just pull the first costume off the shelf.

Costumes don’t have to break the bank –with a little thought and some time on Pinterest, you can come up with some creative ideas. The most important thing to remember is to make it a family affair and for your child to feel comfortable, mentally and physically.

Desiree Rodrigues, who has worked at Hillsides for eight years, is the program coordinator for the CalWORKs program at Hillsides. She is currently working on her degree in literature at Mt. San Antonio College in Walnut, and is looking forward to beginning California State University, Long Beach next fall.

 

 

 

Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Why it’s Important to Speak Up

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By Joseph M. Costa, Hillsides President and CEO

Domestic violence is an issue that is difficult to address because of the stigma and shame associated with it. However, as painful and disturbing as it is, this issue is a crucial one for us to talk about. On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Domestic violence often occurs alongside child abuse and neglect, further compounding the trauma. (Thirty – 60 percent of children from homes where domestic abuse is present are also victims of abuse themselves, according to the Prevent Child Abuse America.®) In addition, children who witness domestic violence are at risk for a host of issues such as anxiety, depression, and aggression.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. For all too many of our clients, domestic violence is a painful reality. One of the programs Hillsides offers helps adults who have been overwhelmed address whatever the presenting issue is while also getting back into the workforce. An employee working in this program shared with me the case of a woman, a victim of domestic violence, who sought out our assistance. Not only had she fled out of state to avoid an abusive relationship, but one of her two children was being treated for a serious illness. Relocated to California, she found herself exhausting what money she had, homeless, living out of her car with her two children, desperate and overwhelmed. Because of the skillful team of therapists and case workers in this program, we were able to help this client address her depression, get into a shelter and eventually into permanent housing, receive medical treatment for her son, go back to school, and secure a job.

It has been a long and difficult road for this woman and her children. There were times when she second-guessed the strategy and considered returning to the relationship she abandoned because at least it was a familiar refuge. With the support and guidance of our staff, she was encouraged to persevere.  She now benefits from her courageous efforts, feeling confident of her capacity to confront hardship and improve her life. For those who have survived domestic violence, the greatest achievement is the ability to move on confidently to a better life.

During this month, when we draw attention to the issue of domestic violence, let us create an environment where those affected by violence can feel safe to reveal their painful stories, benefit from our support, and know our commitment to tangibly improve their lives. For more information on domestic violence, please visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.  To report domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org/. For advice on what to do if you suspect someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse, please take a look at a recent Hillsides blog post, “Seven Expert Tips on How to Help a Friend or Family Experiencing Domestic Violence.”

 

 

Laughter: Great for the Abs and the Mind

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By Desiree Rodrigues

Who can recall the scene from the movie “Legally Blonde,” where Elle is doing her best to explain that people who exercise are happy because of the release of endorphins? Well, before everyone tries to add an extra hour of cardio to their day, did you know that laughing also releases endorphins?  A study by Robin Dunbar, a professor emeritus of evolutionary psychology at Oxford University, suggests that the muscles used while laughing also trigger the release of these “happy hormones.”

Sharing a humorous moment with someone is also a natural form of therapy. Making someone laugh can change their mood in a second. Scientifically, we know that this reaction might be due to endorphins, but the effect goes beyond the science books.

Speaking from experience, I have had times when I needed cheering up. When someone makes me laugh, I see things in a different light. My thoughts are clearer and I have a more optimistic outlook on the situation. My grandmother would always say, “La risa es el major remedio,” which means, laughter is the best medicine. I grew up with that mentality, so in my house we tell jokes and we laugh even when faced with a tough situation.

But how does laughter become part of a therapeutic session without seeming insensitive? Can laughter be therapeutic to everyone?

I spoke with Lourdes Perez, a Hillsides CalWORKs therapist (CalWORKs is an employment-focused program that receives referrals from the California Department of Social Services), and asked her if she has incorporated laughter in her sessions with clients. She stated that she had, because laughing for even a minute helps relieve stress, and afterwards clients can approach their situation with a different mindset. She introduces laughter as a form of self-care, always making sure to explain that laughing at something is not a way of making light of a situation. She encourages her clients to think of the last time they laughed out loud at something, and she asks them to talk about how they felt afterwards.

Rosa Chavez, a Hillsides mental health rehab specialist for outpatient and school-based programs in Baldwin Park, also uses laughter in her therapy sessions with children and parents. “When working with little ones, I try to incorporate laughter as much as possible because it is important for children to feel at ease and have fun during sessions,” she said.  She added that while working with parents in Positive Parenting sessions, “I incorporate humor to make them feel relaxed, since talking about parenting and their challenges can be difficult.”

Need more proof of the healing power of humor?  Peter McGraw, a psychology professor at the University of Colorado Boulder and author of the book, “The Humor Code,” created a humor research lab where he and his staff study the effects of humor on health and psychological well-being. Some of the results prove that even a fake smile or laugh can release endorphins, resulting in a decrease in the amount of cortisol, known as the “stress hormone,” produced by the body. He has a slightly different approach about incorporating humor therapeutically because he believes people need to be taught how to be happy. You can read more about. McGraw’s study and book by visiting his website, humorcode.com.

In an online article posted by the Social Anxiety Institute, “He Who Laugh Most is Most Likely to Last,” one statement stood out in the first paragraph:  “By adding laughter to our daily lives, our therapy becomes more efficient and effective.”  The challenge is to smile and laugh out loud as often as you can, even when you feel blue.  Laughter is contagious — your giggle and smile can help brighten someone’s mood.

You have a chance to learn some new jokes at the upcoming fundraiser for the children of Hillsides at the Ice House Comedy Club in Pasadena on October 14. Get your tickets now by calling 626-577-1894 or visiting icehousecomedy.com  and get ready to LOL!

Desiree Rodrigues, who has worked at Hillsides for eight years, is the program coordinator for the CalWORKs program at Hillsides. She is currently working on her degree in literature at Mt. San Antonio College in Walnut, and is looking forward to beginning California State University, Long Beach next fall.

 

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